How Women Leaders Can Overcome Imposter Syndrome for Good
Let’s talk about that little voice in your head – the one that makes you question if you’re really supposed to be here. Imposter syndrome is real, especially for women in leadership. But it’s time we put that voice in its place. Here’s how.
What Is Imposter Syndrome, Really?
Imposter syndrome is that nagging feeling that we’re not as competent as others think we are. It’s especially common in high-achieving women who feel like they’re “faking it” and waiting to be “found out.” If this sounds familiar, you’re in good company – studies show 75% of female executives admit they’ve struggled with it.
Psychologists Pauline Rose Clance and Suzanne Imes first coined the term back in the ’70s, and it’s stuck with us for a reason. Imposter syndrome often hits women who’ve put in the work, climbed the ladder, and now feel pressure to prove they belong. Research from the American Psychological Association even found that women, particularly women of color, experience imposter feelings more frequently, thanks to additional layers of cultural and societal pressures.
So if you’re feeling this way, know that it’s not “just you.” It’s a real issue, and it’s time we take back our confidence.
Why Does Imposter Syndrome Affect Women Leaders So Much?
If you’ve ever found yourself downplaying your accomplishments or brushing off compliments, it might be because society often pushes women toward humility, even to the point of shrinking. Sheryl Sandberg, in Lean In, calls this the “likability trap,” where women feel they can’t own their strengths without coming off as “too much.”
In her research, Valerie Young, author of The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women, outlines that women often fall into one of five imposter syndrome “types” – perfectionists, soloists, experts, natural geniuses, and superwomen. Each type has its own unique brand of self-doubt, making it hard to shake the feeling that we have to be “better” than we already are.
How to Kick Imposter Syndrome to the Curb
It’s not enough to just acknowledge imposter syndrome; we need tools to tackle it head-on. Here are some strategies to help you turn the volume down on that inner critic.
Challenge the “Shoulds”
One of the biggest red flags of imposter syndrome is when you catch yourself thinking, “I should know this already,” or “I should be able to do this.” These “shoulds” are draining, and honestly, they’re not helping. Brené Brown, in Daring Greatly, talks about the power of embracing vulnerability. She says, “Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up.” Give yourself permission to not have all the answers, and remember that real growth happens when we allow ourselves to be human.
Collect and Revisit Your Wins
Start keeping a “win journal” – yes, a dedicated spot to write down your accomplishments, big and small. A study from Harvard Business School found that people who track and reflect on their accomplishments are not only more productive but also more confident. Flip through it on tough days to remind yourself of everything you bring to the table. You’ve earned your spot, and that journal is proof.
Flip the Script on Self-Talk
Let’s be honest – we are often our own worst critics. That internal dialogue? It’s powerful. A study from the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that reframing self-doubt with positive affirmations significantly improves self-confidence. So, when that “I’m not good enough” voice kicks in, respond with, “I am more than capable of handling this.” It might feel a bit cheesy at first, but over time, this shift in self-talk can work wonders.
Find Allies Who “Get It”
Building a circle of supportive women who understand your journey is a game-changer. Connect with peers or mentors who can relate and remind you that you’re not alone in feeling this way. Sheryl Sandberg’s Lean In Circlesare a great example of how community support helps in pushing back against self-doubt. It’s all about having people in your corner who encourage you to recognize and celebrate your value.
Give Yourself Permission to Be Imperfect
Perfectionism and imposter syndrome are best friends. If you’re constantly striving to be perfect, you’re setting yourself up for endless self-doubt. Embrace imperfection as part of the journey. Elizabeth Gilbert, in Big Magic, suggests allowing ourselves to create “authentically flawed” work rather than striving for perfection. So, instead of focusing on what’s missing, focus on the work you’re doing and the progress you’re making.
Recognize the Impact of Your Unique Perspective
Remind yourself that your perspective as a woman in leadership is valuable. In her book How Women Rise, Sally Helgesen highlights that women bring unique skills to leadership roles, including empathy, collaboration, and adaptability. Embrace these strengths. Remember, you’re bringing something unique to the table that’s needed and valued.
Reflect and Reframe: The Power of Self-Compassion
If there’s one thing we can all do a little more of, it’s giving ourselves some grace. Instead of dwelling on what you thinkyou lack, remind yourself of all you’ve already accomplished. Ask yourself: When was the last time I acknowledged my achievements? Sometimes, we’re so focused on the next goal that we forget to celebrate where we are right now.
Action Step: Say Goodbye to Self-Doubt, One Step at a Time
Take five minutes today to write down three things you’re proud of – yes, right now. Whether it’s a project you nailed, a difficult conversation you handled, or just making it through a hectic week, it all counts. And keep adding to that list whenever you feel self-doubt creeping in. This simple practice can make a big difference over time.
The truth is, imposter syndrome might pop up now and then, but it doesn’t have to hold you back. You are capable, resilient, and ready for every challenge that comes your way. So, next time that little voice in your head questions if you belong, remind it – and yourself – that you’ve earned your place. You’ve got this, girlfriend. Keep shining.
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